I often see articles and interview questions around giving advice to your younger self. It’s an interesting topic (and as an over-thinker, something else I can agonise over at 1am, as if my brain wasn’t full enough…)
You often see responses like “be more confident”, “accept yourself”, “don’t let others take your power/bring you down” etc. Well, I’d tell myself all these things now, but has anyone actually figured out how to do them yet?! These aren’t pieces of advice, just arbitrary statements designed to sound insightful. I’d love to hear someone get down to the nitty gritty, like “don’t sleep with Mike – he’ll give you herpes.”
For me, I think everything we have done, seen, been a part of in the past makes us the person we are today. I’ve done some embarrassing things and made some mistakes, but I have absolutely no regrets. I am 34 year old me because of every other me that’s gone before.
If I tried to give my old selves the heads up, I’d rob them of the opportunity to learn, experience for themselves – not to mention that my headstrong, independent old selves would tell current self to bugger off and mind her own business.
So I guess for me, it would be to just keep going. You’ve had tough times, and believe me, you’ll have plenty more. But don’t give up – you can do it. You should do it. It will try its hardest, but don’t let your brain sabotage you. You are special. And there’s more to come.